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Dec
2013

Gripers Complainers & Whiners, Oh My!

By Linda Larsen - Tuesday, December 10, 2013
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Have you ever found yourself around a negative person whose only goal in life, it seemed, was to make you and everyone around you miserable? If so, you are absolutely not alone.

As a motivational speaker focusing on living a positive life, I've come up with a five step strategy to help you better deal with those negative, griping, complainers and whiners.

The next time you encounter such a person...

  1. Start by acknowledging their feelings
  2. Let them know you'd like to help
  3. Be straight about what listening to them does to you
  4. Use humor
  5. Get solution oriented

Here's how it might sound...

“Gosh, Sam, I can tell you're really frustrated about this.  I wish I could help, and - I really can’t.  See, here's the challenge: When I listen to what's going on with you - not only does it start to bring me down - but I find myself getting so depressed that all I want to do is stab myself with a dinner fork.  If you want to brainstorm some possible solutions to the problem – I’m here for you. In the meantime, I gotta run. Bye."

Then LEAVE. Smile politely and leave the room. Misery loves company, right? Well, then don't give it any! It's not unkind. It's not rude. It's self-preserving!

Now then - do NOT go out of the room, find the first person you can, and then start complaining to them about the negative person. If you do, (and they have read this blogpost)), they might respond with...

"Gosh, I can tell you're really frustrated about this. I wish I could help, and...."

About the Author

Linda Larsen, CSP, CPAE is a Hall of Fame Speaker, professional actress, best-selling author and serious lover of doggies. Linda speaks at conferences and meetings around the world, helping people bring the very best version of themselves to life every day! To talk to Linda about how she can contribute to the success of your next event, call 941-927-4700. Or go to Book Linda Now!



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