Funny Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen presents...

Linda's Positively Speaking Blog

Rants & Raves by Funny Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen


The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth

By Linda Larsen - Friday, January 18, 2019
Featured Image

I believe that most people are truthful, most of the time. I assume, as I am sure you do, that when someone tells you something, you can trust that they are telling you the truth. It would be way too much work to assume otherwise. If you had to stop and analyze the veracity of every technician, salesperson, friend, relative, boss and co-worker each time they spoke to you, you'd be exhausted by nine a.m.!

Accordingly, I was somewhat taken aback by the comment of a salesman this past week. I was supposed to pick up a specially designed area rug at a local carpet store on Monday. When I called to see if it was ready, the salesman said, "I'm not going to lie to you. It's not done."

I was caught off guard. I hesitated a moment and then I said, "OK. How much longer will it be?"

He stammered, tripped over a few words and then replied, "Well, I'm not going to lie to you. He hasn't actually started it yet."

I may be slow, but after the second time, I started paying attention. Why was this man continually saying he wasn't going to lie to me? I ASSUMED he wasn't going to lie to me – but his repeated comments to that effect left me confused and doubtful. I then began to wonder if he had lied to me in the past, if he was lying to me now, or when he might start lying to me in the future.

As I later analyzed the situation, I came to a logical conclusion. Someone who tells the truth in life doesn't have to preface any statement with, "I'm not going to lie to you." It doesn't OCCUR to them to lie to you, so it doesn't occur to them to tell you that they are NOT going to lie to you.

Here's all we need to remember:

  1. Tell the truth.
  2. Don't use those words!

In fact, here are a few other related comments that you also would be well served to avoid: They are:

  1. "I'll be perfectly honest with you…"
  2. "To be completely honest…"
  3. "Can I be frank with you?"


If someone said "Can I be frank with you?" I'm afraid I'd be tempted to reply, "What? Are you crazy? Of course you can't be frank with me! I want lies, do you hear? Blatant, elaborate, convoluted LIES!"

Well, it would get their attention, anyway.

Here's the bottom line: When you make a habit of telling the truth and avoid using damaging statements like the ones above, you enhance your credibility, build trust and strengthen relationships.

Oh, and you know I wouldn't lie to you about this.

Linda Larsen, Speaker Hall of Fame® Keynote speaker, author and former professional comedic actress, brings entertaining, content-rich, hilarious and riveting presentations to conferences world-wide. She is passionate about helping people realize their fullest potential in every area of their lives and live with what she calls, "Honker Happiness." Best-selling author of 12 Secrets to High Self-Esteem audio program, 5 video programs and the critically acclaimed book, True Power. She can be reached at and 941-927-4700

About the Author

Linda Larsen, CSP, CPAE is a Hall of Fame Speaker, professional actress, best-selling author and serious lover of doggies. Linda speaks at conferences and meetings around the world, helping people bring the very best version of themselves to life every day! To talk to Linda about how she can contribute to the success of your next event, call 941-927-4700. Or go to Book Linda Now!

Like this blog? Share it!

Recent Posts



Tag Cloud

iPhone4S National Car Rental Noah Racey's Pulse motivational speaker Brad Montgomery husbands who don't listen happiness at work self confidence tension cell phone addiction bucket list feeling good attitude motivational speaker Linda Larsen selling happiness personal responsibility mans search for meaning motivational speakers friendships humorous motivational speaker beauty divorce statistics how to deal with negative people success power of a smile best bed for bad back happiness funny motivational speaker goal setting political anxiety facebook activity anxiety attitudes customer service training remodel stress contempt marriage Lenscrafters handling fear changing behaviors positive attitude customer service conflict management how to get what you want marshmallow test Meryl Runion how to strengthen relationships funny motivational speakers how to listen the business of motivational speaker overcoming adversity achievements goal achievement motivation gender communication cheerleading self talk chronic back pain motivational speaker success brain chemistry zig ziglar costumes passion parenting laughter acting truth in politics Dr. Phil aging personality types fear of trump presidency criticism proactive people American Idol Changing perspectives changing habits personal growth nonverbal communication happy customers liking Lin-Manuel Miranda communication how to happy defensiveness communication skills Politifact successful dental practices mental illness Tim Richardson controlling your emotional state dr. john gottman difficult patients whiners getting to yes sleep flying eyebrows humor trust in relationships complainers Kelly Swanson what you name the thing finding humor change self-image fact checking communication model joy losing weight Viktor Frankl Broadway reframing Shakespeare, thank-you notes bottom line improvement time management election 2016 speak up mattress recommendation dental practice strategies clinical depression southern accent high self-esteem negative thinking multi-tasking Kay Frances confidence airline pilots encouragement bipolar disorder Dr. Brene Brown, The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto Hamilton speaking nightmares Donald Trump personal development actors how to become a motivational speaker gratitude magic act difficult people raising happy children habits dental practice bad drivers funny motivational speaker Linda Larsen stressful elections achieving success public speaking horror stories listening managing stress patient service shakespeare holiday stress latex mattress review raving fans listening skills Conrad Hall relationship building motivational speaker on communication stress management Hillary Clinton Asolo State Theater positive perspective how to have high self-esteem effective communication lying in politics building character PhotoShop motivational speaker on customer service personal achievement depression advertising vision boards compassion expectations linda larsen understanding coping with anxiety funny video panic attacks gift ideas appreciation good night's sleep learning truth back relief unhappy employees Gary Marachek gripers building rapport healthcare motivational speaker stonewalling